National Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October 01, 2014
"Domestic violence causes far more than the visible marks of bruises and scares. It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and think loves you in return. It is estimated that approximately 3 million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year in the United States." - Dianne Fernstein, Senator
Here are some scary statistics:
- Every 9 seconds, a woman is battered in the U.S. (Family Violence Prevention Fund, 1994.)
- 95% of all victims of domestic violence are women (Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, U.S. Department of Justice
- Domestic violence is the single major cause of injury to women, more than muggings and car accidents combined (First Comprehensive National Health Study of American Women)
- Domestic violence is the cause of 30% of physical disabilities in women (California Department of Social Services, 1994).
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month. It saddened me to learn that 1 in 4 women are in an abusive relationship and 1 in 3 will be abused in her lifetime,according to the International Rescue Committee. When I used to think of abuse, I thought of black and blue eyes and being pushed through a shower door or thrown down a flight of stairs. Well, in my opinion, emotional abuse can be worse. For the bruises will go away, but the effects of being emotionally and financially abused can last for a long time.
Financial abuse is when every penny you spend is watched like a hawk and anything you buy gets scrutinized. Having a checking and savings account, your IRA, 401(k) and your car title all in your name will help guard again financial powerlessness.
As an advocate for women seeking financial freedom and security, I have supported many women through domestic abuse. What we often fail to realize is that domestic abuse touches every aspect of a woman's life. Not only can a woman be isolated from friends and family, but her own finances as well. I had a client once tat started writing out checks for $20 extra over the amount of her original purchase at the checkout. Doing this was the only way that allowed her to save money to exit her unhealthy relationship.
If you or someone you now is a victim of domestic abuse, please seek help for them. If they need financial help, have them call out office at 763-231-9510. Also, here are a few resources that I recommend, Domestic Abuse Project 612-874-7063, Cornerstone 952-884-0376 and Tubman 612-825-0000.